Showing posts with label negative thinking remedies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label negative thinking remedies. Show all posts

Monday, June 3, 2013

rigorous honesty

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If I am to grow in obedience to God, then I cannot be okay with lying. To myself or anyone else. Satan is called the "Father of Lies", even the smallest lie can lead to trouble. Its a dangerous activity for me, and I want to be through with it. I do not want to give the devil a foothold even with the smallest bit of dishonesty in my life!

Some questions from my OA Loop topic of the day that I answered today. I want to be able to return to these when I need to!

1. Are you committed again this day to eat in a God honoring way?
IF you deviate from this plan today will you see it as dishonest?

I AM! My POE (plan of eating) is to track my calories daily, stay within my calorie goal range, avoid trigger foods (anything with flour or sugar), and turn it all into my sponsor each evening. If I deviate from this, its probably 100% likely that I'm not working my program correctly or plugged into God-- and I often feel a extreme urge to cover this up or down-play it as not a big deal. It always is. The faster I fess up and repent, the easier it is to get back on the right track.

2.What is God teaching you about honesty? Name a bible verse that can help you to stay honest?

I'm finding out that when I feel I have been honest or think I AM being honest, I am often not. Its actually quite disturbing. When I toss out all my excuses and see them for what they are, all that's left is the truth... and the only way I can face it is with the hand of Jesus in mine!

The one whose walk is blameless is kept safe, but the one whose ways are perverse will fall into the pit. Proverbs 28:18

3 Tell of a time when the Spirit empowered you to speak the truth in love IF it was not received well, what was your response?

Most recently, I wrote a letter to my husband about things he was doing daily that had been hurting me and making things hard for me, and that God was teaching me to handle things differently (I struggle with co-dependency, and he's a believer struggling with addiction himself, but is not currently working any kind of program- just trying to deal with things on his own), and that as God shows me the way that his responsibility for himself and his own actions will be laid back upon his own shoulders. I was afraid of how he would react but did it as gently as I could, and it actually went very well. This type of communication (reading a letter vs just bringing up a subject and going back and forth about it getting us no where) was a great tool and we both decided we want to do that again. While I spoke to him and we discussed it after, I could feel the spirit of God in the room with us, and we made some real progress toward hopefully beginning to restore our marriage, and ME being able to release myself from the resentment I have been harboring toward my husband. The biggest most amazing thing about the entire conversation was the fact that I did not BLOW UP! I was able to take 10 steps back from my emotions and just listen and look at things as objectively as I could... and it was (and IS) such a blessing!

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

stinking thinking

Today I want to write about a topic that has come up several times to me this week: negative thinking, or what some like to say in this program "stinking thinking".
Sometimes these are inward thoughts like "I'm not good enough" or "what is wrong with me?"
I have noticed for myself, they tend to be thoughts about what is happening to me or other people around me. My friend is getting a divorce, a friends spouse died, I tried doing _____ and failed, my marriage sucks, my kids are bad, I feel so tired, I have too much to do, etc, etc, etc.
It's a chain reaction. Sometimes I see it, sometimes it takes someone saying something to me for me to see it, but it happens too often, too easily and too quickly. I can be full of hope and joy, and the next thing I know all I feel is despair and anger!
The last week or two, I've been struggling a bit. Not binging so much, just overeating, but I know that is very dangerous for me, and I am trying to refocus on God and the POSITIVE. I have been praying for God to reveal to me what is bringing me down, making me want to eat lately, and I realized after hearing it over and over again this week that I'm on a negative thinking binge!
The Lord gave me a great abstinent day yesterday, and it's renewed me. He put my kids to bed for a nap today as well so I could write. And then I read what finally blasted my mind wide open in a share today and I see why I've been on this roller coaster.



What is the remedy for negative thinking?
This is what I have found that works for me:
- reading positive quotes
- reading my bible
- writing a journal about my goals, focusing on ones you have achieved
- volunteering my time to serve a friend or stranger
- cleaning something
- writing a list of gratitudes
- calling someone who has helped me and telling them thank you
I'm sure there are more, feel free to add to my list! I will be adding more over time I'm 'positive' about that!
I'm done feeling sorry for myself today.